Cosleeping has been one of the most wonderful experiences of my life. Next to the actual births of my children, I can’t think of anything that has brought more love and joy to our lives. Waking up next to our children, snuggling, keeping watch if they’re sick and lovingly nursing them. It has been amazing. I love cosleeping, I recommend cosleeping and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!
I didn’t always feel this way. After the birth of my first son friends and family urged me to not let him into bed. “Once you bring him into bed you’ll never get him out!” “You won’t have ‘alone time’ for your husband if you bring baby into bed” were some common warnings. To be honest I let them rattle me and I tried to avoid cosleeping. My first son slept in a cosleeper next to the bed or bassinet for the first few months and woke regularly. I was EXHAUSTED to say the least, some nights he woke 15 minutes after I nursed and put him down. I would sit in a rocking chair and nurse him back to sleep, place him in the bassinet then he would wake all over again. I finally listened to other breastfeeding Moms, got a side rail from Amazon and started cosleeping. I felt like a huge weight had been lifted. While he still woke to nurse, I felt like a new woman. Being able to feed him without having to sit up or get out of bed lead for a much more restful night…but now I get asked about hubby. Having children changes your life, all aspects, including intimate time.
Through personal experience and discussion with other Moms, friends and family I have compiled some tips and suggestions for keeping your intimate time while practicing cosleeping;
Maybe you’re hoping for another baby, maybe you just want to get it on with your partner; If the bed is your primary place for having sex, then you’ll need to rethink your routine if you cosleeping…especially if there are multiple children in the bed! If you like to bounce around, make baby-waking noise or use the whole bed…then it’s time to revamp your routine. Here are some tips for Having a Sex life and Cosleeping:
- Discover the Couch (Or kitchen counter, floor, the wall, dining room table etc.) Get creative. This is a new opportunity to spice up your sex life! No one is using the kids’ bed!? Guess what…you are.
- Wait until baby is asleep. (Really asleep) Nursing? Nurse baby to sleep, roll away quietly and stick to your side of the bed (for quiet love makers or very deep sleeping babies, certainly don’t try this if you’ll bounce the little one out)
- Have Morning Sex or After-Nooners. If you’re a night-time sex couple, change it up! Have sex when the kids aren’t sleeping in your bed, break out the high-chair/pack and play and put on a movie, wait until nap time in the swing or drop them off at Grandma’s.
- Have fun with it! Remember sneaking around as a teenager? Yep, all over again!
- Discover the quickie. Tell your partner exactly how to ring your bell before the cows come home and not only have amazing sex, and communicate communicate communicate.
- Discover toys. Maybe a vibrator will give you the race winning advantage to reach your peak, maybe it’s some clitoral arousal gel or a flogger (yes I saw the trailer to that movie too!) – hey, whatever works for you works. Go for it.
- Take the Oral Route. Maybe having a full-romp isn’t in the cards, however there’s no reason why you both can’t have an orgasm. Discover, rediscover or go to an all time favorite…lip service followed by snuggle time. Not your thing? Get a flavored lubricant sampler and go for it!
Okay, yes I went there. This article is meant for other parents and maybe it will open discussion. Bottom line is that your lives have changed and there are two ways to go about your sex life. Have fun with it and discover a new way to ‘do it’ or gripe and complain about not being able to do it the way you did before children and have less sex. This article is not meant to offend anyone, but to bring up something I hear about regularly from Moms.
I hope this has given you inspiration, maybe it’s something you already do, or maybe it was just a good laugh with your cup of coffee. Either way, your spouse, your partner is your life partner and things will change over time. You can roll with the hills…or fall in a ditch…
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